Laurie Sloane   Licensed Clinical Social Worker


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Over the past 30 years, a combination of diverse professional experiences and extensive training have made me the therapist I am today. In addition to a Master’s Degree in Social Work, I have participated in continuing education courses and seminars to ensure that I am incorporating the latest in psychoanalysis into treatment plans.

I joined the faculty of the Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Study Center (PPSC), a post-graduate training institute, and served as the Executive Director for 10 years. During my tenure, I taught and supervised candidates, developed an internship program for graduate students, and worked to establish guidelines for training and licensure in New York.  My expertise is broad and far-reaching.

My current areas of specialty are: 

Therapy for Young Adults

Of late, more attention has been focused on the well-being of anxious, depressed and suicidal students on college campuses. I have worked with many students trying to adjust to life away from home. The social and academic pressures of college can bring about the emergence of major mental illness and addiction that needs to be addressed with the proper treatment. In addition to individual sessions, I also offer group treatment to college students and young adults.

Therapy for Women of all ages

I have extensive experience in counseling women of all ages who suffer from eating disorders. Today, there are a variety of treatments available; I’m able to help navigate through the options and figure out which will work best on a case by case basis.

As baby boomers are aging, they are learning that menopause no longer spells the end. Life after 65 continues to be an important, yet often overlooked part of adult development. I’m able to offer support in either individual or group therapy sessions for women navigating midlife and beyond.

Therapy for Veterans

I am affiliated with Here to Help Military and Families, a Long Island group that offers free counseling to returning veterans and their families. I offer a holistic approach to treatment; for both veterans returning from combat, suffering from the effects of trauma and PTSD, as well as their families, who are struggling to understand how difficult reentry into civilian life can be.
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What can you gain from therapy?

Connection to others

Over the past 30 years, I’ve learned a lot about relationships and the value in sharing our thoughts and feelings with friends and partners. Knowing we are being listened to, valued and understood is crucial to emotional wellbeing.

Hope for the future

Therapy is a process. Though there is often no simple, quick solution, it provides a safe space to explore emotions, thoughts, and actions in an in-depth and meaningful way, to eventually bring about change.

Growth and change

Through continued treatment, therapy can be an incredibly powerful tool in helping to significantly improve your quality of life and outlook.

Call me today at 212-413-7088 for a free 15 minute phone consultation.

Psychotherapist for Divorce

Making the Divide: Why You Should See a Psychotherapist for Divorce

therapist-for-divorce-counseling-ny-01If your relationship is on the rocks, you may start considering divorce. There can be many conditions that might lead a couple in this direction. Even in difficult situations, it can still be a difficult choice. Many people will find they could benefit from the help of a psychotherapist as they finalize that decision. Once the decision is settled, then a counselor can also help a couple work through the process of divorce. Learn more about why you should see a psychotherapist for divorce:

Considering Divorce

Many situations can lead a person to consider divorce. There could have been infidelity or some other breach of trust. There could be excessive arguments or differences you can no longer work past. There could be alienation or abandonment. One or both partners may have simply changed over time, such that the relationship no longer works. When this becomes a possibility some couples do seek help.

When you find yourself considering divorce and you want to repair the relationship, this is a perfect time to seek the support of a couples counselor. Sometimes couples find they simply cannot mend their relationship on their own. However, the help of a trained professional can allow couples to strengthen their communication with one another and give them a safe space to work through their problems.

Deciding on Divorce

deciding-divorce-best-female-ny-psychotherapist-02Sometimes even the help of therapy cannot repair a relationship. One or both parties may find themselves at an impasse where they really want to leave. Meeting with a counselor either for individual therapy or for couples therapy can help you make that decision. It may be more helpful to meet with a therapist one-on-one if just one party is in the position of considering divorce. Otherwise, the couple may work with a couples therapist to collectively work towards that decision together.

Planning for Divorce

top-nyc-therapist-divorce-planning-process-03Oftentimes, couples will have already made the decision for divorce before starting couples counseling or they make that decision during the process of relationship therapy. This is perfectly acceptable, the goal of attending relationship counseling is to help the couple get where they need to be, and that may not always be reparation. The good news is relationship counseling can also be used to plan for divorce.

You may wonder why you would want to see a psychotherapist for divorce planning. Well, the truth is that divorce can be a challenging process. This is true even if the partners are separating amicably. There can be many logistics to work through, such as dividing property and debt. The situation may become even more challenging if you share children—you certainly need to have an amicable relationship.

Attending counseling during the process of your divorce can be tremendously helpful for partners who need to learn how to co-parent separately. A divorce counselor can assist divorcing partners in learning how to communicate in ways that will be healthy for both them and their children. Counseling can also help to mediate the planning of logistics around co-parenting, such as sharing time with one another.

Closing Thoughts

When you are considering divorce or working your way through the process consider receiving counseling with a trained and experienced provider, who can help you to work through the situation. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for relationship counseling. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Laurie can meet any couple where they are at to work on their relationship or assist them in the process of planning for divorce.

 

Psychotherapist for Alcohol Abuse

Battling the Bottle: When to Seek a Psychotherapist for Alcohol Abuse

If you struggle with alcohol abuse or alcoholism, you might find it rather difficult to stop drinking on your own. This is because the use of alcohol can be highly addictive once you have developed a dependence on it and it may ultimately be more powerful than simply your will to quit. Given the challenges of the battle, many people choose to seek out the support of a psychotherapist for alcohol abuse. Learn more about the challenges of battling alcohol abuse and how a therapist can help:

Effects of Alcohol Abuse

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Individuals who abuse alcohol may find themselves drinking frequently and throughout the day. On some level you know that it is not healthy to engage in this behavior, but it can be difficult to resist. You might find yourself constantly making excuses for your drinking or planning to cut back someday soon.

Soon you may find the alcohol abuse taking its toll on your personal and professional life. You might show up to work late or hungover. It may be difficult to hide from your boss and coworkers that you have been drinking. When you get home, if you start drinking fairly quickly, it can be difficult to engage with your family and manage typical home activities like cooking, cleaning, and laundry.

You may want to quit but quitting can be easier said than done. You may need support in quitting and that support could be obtained by seeking therapy. In the counseling setting, you may also be able to discuss and identify what factors could have led to your alcohol abuse to begin with.

Causes of Alcohol Abuse

When you think of the causes of alcohol abuse, you might think that the answer should be obvious. After all, surely drinking alcohol is the cause of alcohol abuse. However, the cause of alcohol abuse is not so obvious as it might seem. Oftentimes, alcohol abuse grew out of other problems.

Many people turn to using alcohol to help them cope. Sometimes people do this for short-term coping, such as before they go into a situation that might make them feel anxious. Other times, people start using alcohol because they have unresolved emotions from their childhood and adult life that they do not know how to resolve. The alcohol may serve to numb those emotions. While this may seem to work, of course, the alcohol abuse does have its own negative consequences, so it is not a real solution.

Support for Alcohol Abuse

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When you think about seeking support for alcohol abuse, what you really need is two solutions. First, you need someone who will be your ally and your coach in the battle against alcohol abuse. Second, you also need to work with someone who can help you resolve the underlying problems that motivated the alcohol abuse to begin with. A trained therapist can assist you with both of these areas.

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Counselors can help people to set goals for reducing or stopping their alcohol use. They can help you build and maintain the motivation for doing this. They can support you as you endeavor to reach those goals and can help you trouble-shoot if something goes wrong. As noted, they can also assist you in resolving any emotional problems that might have been motivating your excessive use.

Closing Thoughts

Alcohol abuse is a real problem and it is not easily resolved on your own. If you want to reduce your alcohol use and regain control over your life, consider seeking the support of a counselor. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for alcohol abuse counseling. Laurie can help you reduce your use and support you in the battle for sobriety.

 

 

 

 

 

Psychotherapist for Adoption Related Issues

Unexpected Deliveries: Seeking a Psychotherapist for Adoption Related Issues

therapist-for-adoptive-issues-children-parents-nyc-01Adoption is a complex process for everyone involved. For prospective parents, adoption may be an option they pursue after other routes towards parenthood did not work out. This can make the emotions involved multi-faceted. For adopted children, there may also be a mix of emotions depending on the circumstances of the adoption, their age at the time of adoption, their age at the time they learn they are adopted, and their knowledge of their birth parents. Learn more about how therapy can help:

For Adoptive Parents

therapist-for-adopted-children-lgbtq-parents-nyc-02More couples than ever are struggling with issues of infertility. Such difficulties can be challenging for each partner and for the relationship. There may have been heartbreaks, setbacks, and battles with medical intervention that did not pan out. As a result, couples may start considering adoption as a route towards parenthood. Similarly, couples in the LGBT community have more freedom to marry and establish their lives together, which leads many to also choose to pursue parenthood through adoption.

The route towards adoption can bring with it many challenges. It can be a legal and financial battle. There are many optional paths to consider and each can include its own barriers. While adoption agencies are available to support prospective parents on the logistics, people may find themselves also needing more emotional support. This can occur on an individual or a couples basis in a therapy setting.

A therapist can assist anyone struggling with infertility and the decision towards adoption. The counseling setting can provide a safe space to process through the thoughts and emotions to make a well-thought out, prepared decision. Then, a therapist can be a supportive presence throughout the adoption process. It can be valuable to have that resource outside of family and friends, who may be supportive, but who may not understand all the complex emotions you may be struggling with.

For Adopted Children

problems-issues-adoption-nyc-therapist-03Meanwhile, children who are adopted may also face their fair share of struggle. If a child was placed into the foster care system or put up for adoption from difficult circumstances, they may need assistance in processing through that (especially if they were older throughout this process). For a child, there may be feelings of abandonment and they may be fearful of becoming attached to their new parents (with potentially some level of concern that they will be abandoned again).

A child psychologist may be a necessary resource for children as they adjust to their adoptive family. Children’s therapy assists adoptive children in various ways. This may occur through talking or through play therapy, if they are younger and less adept with language. Sometimes children will not need this resource right away. Instead, as children get older they may start to struggle with their adoptive status. In this case, it may be valuable for them to have someone outside the family to talk to about it.

Closing Thoughts

Whether you are an adoptive parent or an adopted child, you may find yourself needing support. Visiting a psychotherapist for adoption related issues, can give you the support that you need. Trained counselors can assist children and adults in individual therapy, couples counseling, or family therapy. If you want to seek therapy for issues related to adoption, contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 today to schedule an appointment. With over 30 years of experience as a counselor, Laurie is skilled at working with people of all ages, couples, and families on issues related to adoption. Consider meeting with her to help yourself, your child, and your whole family.

 

 

Psychotherapist for Family Conflict

More Than Just Family Drama: Why You Should Seek a Psychotherapist for Family Conflict

therapist-for-family-drama-conflicts-01Television and movies may make light of what is sometimes referred to as “family drama.” Sure, it can seem hilarious when presented with a comical flair and set against a laugh track. However, in real life “family drama” can quickly have much more weight to it. For people who grow up in families with conflict, it can have lasting repercussions for your future. If as an adult, you are battling family conflict, it can distract you from living your own best life. Learn how therapy can help you resolve family conflict:

Conflict in Your Family of Origin

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If you grew up in a home with high degrees of family conflict, you may remember everyone having strong emotions, being easily set off, and frequent fights. Hearing your parents fight frequently likely led to disagreements between yourself and your parents or siblings. After all, this is the communication style and pattern you had learned. It might have even seemed natural to frequently yell and scream at others.

As you moved into your adult years, you may have found yourself easily feeling stressed, sometimes communicating poorly, and in your own fair share of conflict (whether it was with friends, family, or even colleagues at work). These problems can all be the products of having grown up in a high conflict family. To improve your own life, you may find it beneficial to seek out therapeutic counseling so that you can resolve any lingering emotional damage caused by that difficult childhood environment.

Ongoing Conflict and Difficulty Cutting Ties

Another problem that people sometimes face is ongoing conflict with their family of origin. This could show up when parents have a difficult time letting their adult children go out, make their own decisions, and live their own life. Attempts to hold on could lead to family conflict. This could be difficult for many young adults as they want to devote their time and attention towards establishing a life of their own. Again, therapy can be helpful in assisting you to set boundaries with your family and make your own life.

Conflict in Your Current Family Home

therapist-for-family-conflict-home-03When there is conflict in your current family home, whether it is the result of replicating old communication patterns you saw in your childhood home or as the result of current stressors, it can be disruptive to everyone’s well-being. It may be that you are struggling in your spousal relationship or in your role as a parent. As that shows up in conflict, any children in the home will pick up on it as well.

Whatever the source of the family conflict, it is valuable to seek counseling to resolve it. If you find that the conflict seems to be the result of one person, then you or they may benefit from individual therapy. If it seems to be the result of problems in a spousal or romantic relationship, then couples counseling may be the solution. If there seems to be conflict throughout the entire family dynamic, then family counseling might be the best option. Visit a therapist to determine which resource your family needs.

Closing Thoughts

Being a part of family conflict can really affect many other areas of your life. You might find yourself struggling at home and at work. To resolve your experiences with family conflict either those related to your family of origin or your current family home, consider seeking the support of a therapist. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 today to schedule an appointment. She has the expertise and 30 years of experience in the field, to help you resolve your family conflict.

Conditions we treat at Best Therapist NYC

The Most Common Conditions Your Psychotherapist Can Help You With

female-nyc-therapist-common-conditions-01We live in a world where almost every problem we have can be treated with medicine. There are medications for mental health complications such as ADHD and even depression. There are so many people across the globe that resort to a string of medications to keep serious symptoms from developing and whatnot. However, these medications also come with side effects, and these side effects can give rise to other mental and physical problems. In conditions like these, it is better to talk to someone rather than take drugs that will eventually cause further problems.

Emotional instability is common and in some cases, the condition is referred to as healthy. But over a longer period of time, it can become harmful. The person should therefore talk to someone to let go of the build up of negative energy inside of him. Psychotherapists use the same technique to help people with some common conditions. They are specially trained professionals who understand the problems their patients are facing and give them a safe space to talk about themselves.

Your psychotherapist can help you out with the following conditions:

1.     Grief Counseling:

Losing someone close to you, be it a family member, a friend or a pet can have a numbing toll on your brain. You end up feeling lost and full of despair. Grief counseling by a therapist can help the person recover from that state of mind  as they understand it is better to let go than to hang on to what is not there. The grief can turn into serious forms of depression if left untreated therefore it is important to consult a psychotherapist as soon as possible.

2.     Depression:

psychotherapist-therapist-nyc-for-common-conditions-depression-grief-01The human mind can become a ticking time bomb of emotions when it comes to conditions such as depression and stress. All of a sudden you might start over thinking matters that are otherwise trivial. For example, if someone in the subway gave you a look, you will spend the entire day thinking of what it meant and might possibly arrive at the conclusion that you are ugly. This is how depression begins when a person loses his self confidence and the will to live. The therapist will therefore channel all the negative thoughts and turn them into positive ones. He will help you figure out your worth and make you realize the options you still have remaining.

3.     Relationship Conflicts:

female-best-therapist-for-relationship-conflicts-couples-03Relationships can be tricky, especially when both parties decide they do not want to compromise on anything. A therapist will help clear any misunderstanding between you and your girlfriend/wife and help relight the spark in your relationship. He will also ensure both of you leave the therapy with a better understanding of each other’s wants and needs therefore helping you two prepare for the future.

4.     Paranoia:

Paranoia can be a very debilitating mental condition. It can give rise or panic attacks and enhance your levels of anxiety. This is a condition where an individual loses his will to trust others because he thinks he will get betrayed in the end. He ends up thinking the whole world is against him. This problem can lead to a string of different medical conditions.A therapist can help with extreme cases by helping the person begin to trust again.

If you’re thinking about seeing a therapist for any of the above conditions or other, give me a call today at 212-413-7088 or email me to see if therapy may be a good option for you.

Therapist for Aging NYC

What Will Your Future Look Like as You Approach 65, 75, 80 and Beyond?

best-elderly-senior-citizen-therapy-psychotherapy-nyc-03As we get older, there are physical changes we all go through. Our skin becomes more wrinkled, our joints may start to ache and generally, we are not as energetic as we used to be. Health concerns can be a real issue for some, but for others a visit to the doctors is rare.

Reaching 65

therapist-for-high-quality-of-life-seniors-older-people-02For a long time, reaching 65 meant retiring, as in many countries that is when state pensions became payable. 65-year old’s these days tend to be a lot healthier than people of that age were a couple of generations ago. They want to still enjoy life and generally have the energy to do so. If they have already retired, they may have taken up a new interest, started traveling or maybe doing some voluntary work to keep themselves occupied. The worst thing they can do after being busy for many years is to suddenly do nothing as that is guaranteed to affect their health. The future is still bright when you reach 65.

Reaching 70

Reaching 70 need not make much difference to your life at all. Some people are still working, by choice, and others have already carved out the sort of life they want. They may not have quite so much energy, their hair may be a little whiter and there will be a few more wrinkles, but there is no reason at all why life cannot still be fun at 70.

Reaching 80 and Beyond

therapist-for-aging-men-women-female-retirement-nyc-01Reaching 80 is a milestone that is usually celebrated with family members and friends. By this time, you may have developed a health issue or two, but these can be managed with the help of your physician.  Generally, you will probably have slowed down a bit, but people are aware of your age and will make allowances. You are probably more aware than ever of your mortality, and one 80-year-old in particular, Michael Caine, has said just how happy he is to wake up every morning, even if he does have a few aches and pains. If you had children, you could now be greeting great grandchildren and that is a wonderful experience all of its own.

Unfortunately, not all people over 65 have the love and support from family and friends and they can become depressed and suffer anxiety. They may need help from a professional so that they can cope with growing older. If this is your situation, contact me today to schedule an appointment with the best psychotherapist in NYC.

NYC Therapist for Midlife

What Happens After Midlife?

female-therapist-for-midlife-nyc-long-island-01Midlife creeps up on people without them even realizing. They have been so busy rearing their children and working to pay off the mortgage that suddenly they have reached their 40’s or 50’s, and it can be a big shock. Sometimes a relationship fails at this point because they find they no longer want the same lifestyle or the same future. For some, the freedom of their children having left home and extra money in the bank is wonderful and they start to enjoy life more than ever before.

New Hobbies

therapist-for-retirement-aged-females-nyc-03It is typical that at this time of life, people start new hobbies. It could be something they have always had an interest in, but never had the time or money to take part in before. It is even better if it is a shared interest as that can help to bring partners closer together. This has to be a bonus as they approach old age.

Planning Retirement

For many people, it is after midlife has passed when they start to consider retirement. Have they saved enough money or invested enough in a pension plan? Some of them will have been lucky enough to be in a company scheme where their employer has contributed on top of the money they have put in. For those that have not, it can be a real concern though, so they will start to make inquiries into what they should do. Planning for retirement should start as early as possible if a lifestyle is wanted that is anything near what they had with an earned income.

Enjoying Life

retirement-midlife-therapist-nyc-ny-02Once they have passed through the ups and downs of midlife, most people want to enjoy themselves. They now have freedom like they have not had for many years, and some do not know what to do with it. Apart from taking up a new hobby, others will change their job, start to travel, downsize their home and a whole host of other things that will make them feel more fulfilled. This time of life is their time of life and making the most of it is vital for some.

For others, they will feel totally lost and have trouble coping. They can suffer anxiety and depression and not know where to turn for guidance.

Help is at hand and all you need to do is contact us today to arrange an appointment with the best psychotherapist in NYC.

How to Prepare to Go to a Therapist by NYC Top Psychotherapist

Things You Should Know Before Seeing a Psychotherapist

how-plan-for-therapy-top-female-therapist-nyc-01The decision to begin therapy can be frustrating or disheartening. It is a path that helps lead the patient on a journey to self actualization, mental stability and emotional perseverance. Not only is it challenging for the therapist to meticulously and yet gently probe you to fully open yourself to him and to discuss all that you have kept hidden deep inside your subconscious. However, this can also be equally harrowing and traumatizing for the patient. This is why it is important to develop a powerful bond of trust and confidence in your therapist. In light of this, mentioned below is everything you need to do to build a strong relationship with your therapist:

  1. Plan it out:

It is extremely crucial to know that your first meeting with the therapist is the building block of your upcoming sessions. It is where you and your therapist get to know each other whilst unraveling dark or emotionally troubling secrets and confusion that hovers over you. So go ahead and plan out your talk with him. Make notes of what goes around in your head and feel free to let it out, be it something that bothers you during the day or something that keeps you up at night – don’t hesitate to let it out since your sole purpose is to rid yourself of negative energy.

  1. Be determined:

Psychotherapy is not magic. Just like any other medicinal treatment, it takes time. Every individual is unique and there is diversity among the types of cases the therapist comes across, so you need to cut him some slack and be patient. Hence, it is necessary for patients to realize that determination is the key to success. Give your counselor the time to adjust to you. No miracle can fix you unless you yourself are determined to work towards a positive change in your life. So keep your head high and hopes higher!

  1. The psychotherapist is not your friend:

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Yes, it is true that you are often told to open up to your therapist just like you would to a close friend. However, it is ignored that your therapist is a legal, clinically approved professional who will not put forward any biased opinions or fake references to be in your good books; something a friend would do. Be prepared for bitter, unbiased counseling if you plan on visiting a therapist. This positive criticism, in most cases, can play a vital role in a rapid recovery.

  1. Book an appointment:

Because of the hustle and bustle of life, people forget to do the one thing that is primary before your first session. Be sure to make an appointment at least 2 weeks in advance to avoid any delays in your meeting. Also, make sure you have no other plans on the day as your appointment so that your mind is fresh and optimally functional. Stay focused!

  1. Be yourself:

planning-for-therapy-top-therapist-nyc-03After you have decided to finally talk to someone about your feelings, know that you need to be as honest and truthful as possible. Your therapist is not someone you need to impress with your words. He is not looking for a fancy speech or courtesy (a bit of courtesy won’t hurt though). All you need to do is spill your guts the way you like! Share whatever you intend to as no one knows you better than yourself.

 

Psychotherapists can work wonders for your health should you choose to see one. So contact us today to schedule an appointment with the best Psychotherapist in NYC.

Group Therapy for Midlife Crisis

How Can Groups Help You Cope with Midlife and Plan for the Future?

group-therapy-midlife-crisis-best-therapist-nyc-01Researchers are saying that it appears that a midlife crisis is a myth. Try telling that to someone who has just realized that old age is creeping up faster than he or she thought. Someone who suddenly becomes aware of their mortality and are feeling trapped in their job, or even their life, would argue the point as for them it will feel like they are suffering a crisis in midlife.

Every day people in their 40’s and 50’s have to deal with a wide range of issues. There could be aging parents to look after, teenage children to deal with, health concerns and worry over if they have done enough to have a secure retirement.

Find Others in the Same Situation

group-therapy-midlife-crisis-best-therapist-nyc-02One of the problems with any type of stress is that the sufferer can feel very much alone. They tend to think they are the only one feeling this way, and that can make them feel even worse. In truth, most middle-aged people have the same sorts of problems to deal with. From the outside they may be putting on a front of sweetness and light, but on the inside, they are in turmoil.

Just like with most other situations in life, there are groups of people that gather to support each other. Chatting to others that feel the same way can be such a relief and may help to find solutions to some of the problems. A typical example would be meeting people who understand how to plan and invest for retirement, and that can be one worry out of the way.

Family Groups

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Family groups can offer a great deal of support to anyone experiencing stress. Some of the older family members will have already been through this experience and will understand exactly how the sufferer is feeling. For instance, one of the biggest changes for women in midlife is the menopause, and their mothers and grandmothers will have been through the same. Their symptoms might have been slightly different, but they will be able to impart first-hand knowledge of how to deal with it.

Professional Groups

Some people in midlife need more than a friendly chat and a bit of understanding to help them. This is where groups run by professionals can help. These are run by qualified psychotherapists who will be able to guide the group through the best ways of helping each other.

Initially, some people would rather chat to someone on their own. If this is how you feel, contact us today to schedule an appointment with the best psychotherapist in NYC.

Positive and Negative Aspects of Midlife

midlifeFrom the day we are born we start to age, and we all have to go through the various stages of life. At some point we will reach midlife, and for many it can be quite a shock when they realize they are no longer the youngster they feel they still are in their head. Midlife has its differences for men and for women, but there are some things that can apply to us all no matter what our gender is.

Children Fleeing the Nest

midlifeIt is often the time when parents reach midlife that coincides with their children having left home for university or just to set up their own home. Suddenly there can be just the two of you. There will not be so much washing and other housework to do, so there is more free time. No school runs to worry about or late-night picks ups from friend’s houses. Now you can please yourselves and, after years of caring for children, that can be strange.

Of course, the negative side of this is that you will miss your children on a day-to-day basis, but from a positive point of view your life becomes your own again. You can eat when you want, watch what you want to see on the TV and generally live your life as you see fit.

Having More Money

Hopefully, it is this time of life when your mortgage will be coming to an end, and that can mean you are a lot better off financially. On the positive side, this could mean you will be better off than at any other previous time of your life, but on the negative side, you need to start investing some of that money for your retirement.
If you think that midlife has crept up faster than you thought possible, retirement comes even quicker. If you do not invest some of your newfound wealth in a pension plan for the future, you could end up in a very bad financial state after just a couple of years of finishing work.

Health Issues

midlifeSome people say that it is at midlife that our health starts to decline, both physically and mentally. This is not always the case by any means. Yes, our conditions change, but that is not always a bad thing. Physically, women go through the menopause but then do not have the hassle of monthly periods. Men often get a wake-up call at this age because of changes in their appearance and start to take better care of themselves.

Mentally, most people just deal with the changes that are happening, but for some they cannot handle the fact they are getting older and might need some help to come to terms with it. If this is how you feel, contact us today and arrange an appointment with the finest psychotherapist in NYC.

Contact us at 212-413-7088 to schedule a consultation.