Laurie Sloane   Licensed Clinical Social Worker


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Over the past 30 years, a combination of diverse professional experiences and extensive training have made me the therapist I am today. In addition to a Master’s Degree in Social Work, I have participated in continuing education courses and seminars to ensure that I am incorporating the latest in psychoanalysis into treatment plans.

I joined the faculty of the Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Study Center (PPSC), a post-graduate training institute, and served as the Executive Director for 10 years. During my tenure, I taught and supervised candidates, developed an internship program for graduate students, and worked to establish guidelines for training and licensure in New York.  My expertise is broad and far-reaching.

My current areas of specialty are: 

Therapy for Young Adults

Of late, more attention has been focused on the well-being of anxious, depressed and suicidal students on college campuses. I have worked with many students trying to adjust to life away from home. The social and academic pressures of college can bring about the emergence of major mental illness and addiction that needs to be addressed with the proper treatment. In addition to individual sessions, I also offer group treatment to college students and young adults.

Therapy for Women of all ages

I have extensive experience in counseling women of all ages who suffer from eating disorders. Today, there are a variety of treatments available; I’m able to help navigate through the options and figure out which will work best on a case by case basis.

As baby boomers are aging, they are learning that menopause no longer spells the end. Life after 65 continues to be an important, yet often overlooked part of adult development. I’m able to offer support in either individual or group therapy sessions for women navigating midlife and beyond.

Therapy for Veterans

I am affiliated with Here to Help Military and Families, a Long Island group that offers free counseling to returning veterans and their families. I offer a holistic approach to treatment; for both veterans returning from combat, suffering from the effects of trauma and PTSD, as well as their families, who are struggling to understand how difficult reentry into civilian life can be.
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What can you gain from therapy?

Connection to others

Over the past 30 years, I’ve learned a lot about relationships and the value in sharing our thoughts and feelings with friends and partners. Knowing we are being listened to, valued and understood is crucial to emotional wellbeing.

Hope for the future

Therapy is a process. Though there is often no simple, quick solution, it provides a safe space to explore emotions, thoughts, and actions in an in-depth and meaningful way, to eventually bring about change.

Growth and change

Through continued treatment, therapy can be an incredibly powerful tool in helping to significantly improve your quality of life and outlook.

Call me today at 212-413-7088 for a free 15 minute phone consultation.

Strengthening the Bonds: When to Use a Psychotherapist for Relationship Issues

top-nyc-psychotherapist-for-relationship-issues-couples-01Do I need a psychotherapist for relationship issues? There is some outdated notion that if a relationship is meant to be, it will easily fall into place. That is not entirely true. Of course, too much struggle is a sign of a problematic relationship that should perhaps not be maintained. However, healthy relationships do require a balance of ease alongside purposeful work intended to build, strengthen, and maintain the relationship over time. Oftentimes, couples elect to use relationship counseling to support the longevity of their relationship.

Counseling for Pre-Marital Preparation

One good time to attend relationship counseling is before you commit into marriage. Shifting from dating to fiancés to a married couple can be a big change. As your relationship status changes and your life shifts accordingly, it can be helpful to talk over all the details in pre-marital counseling.

A relationship counselor can assist an engaged couple in establishing healthy communication patterns, figuring out what their married life will look like, and equip them to deal with anything unexpected that may occur during their lives together. This is a good investment of time to plan for a marriage not just a wedding. Most couples counselors can provide pre-marital counseling if you just request it.

Counseling a Distressed Relationship

counseling-improve-relationships-marriage-top-nyc-couples-therapist-02Often couples seek out counseling when they are facing some distress in their relationship that may seem to threaten the health or longevity of it. There are many different circumstances that can cause distress in a couples’ relationship. Each couple may experience their own compilation of challenges.

Some couples find they grow apart over time and need assistance growing back together. Some couples face unique difficulties such as a miscarriage or the loss of a child. Others may face difficulties in communication and emotional withdrawal from one another. Still others may face trust issues they need to resolve. It can sometimes be difficult to know how to repair such matters without outside help.

Strengthening Any Committed Relationship

happy-couple-psychotherapist-success-counseling-03Even still, the choice to attend couples counseling does not necessarily require a big change in the relationship or a significant problem. Many couples choose to attend relationship counseling simply to strengthen their relationship and perhaps to avoid any major relationship problems in the future.

Attending relationship counseling can give a couple the chance to discuss their similarities and differences, their communication styles, and the way those factors could affect their interactions with one another. Couples can learn how to communicate most effectively with each other, how to have healthy disagreements, and how to work through difficult times together rather than drawing apart.

Closing Thoughts

Relationships are not always easy and sometimes a couple needs the assistance of another perspective to help them build a solid foundation, strengthen it over time, and work through any challenges they may face.

If you want to pursue relationship counseling, consider contacting Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 today, to schedule an appointment. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Laurie has helped many couples strengthen their bonds. She can help you too.

www.LaurieSloane.com

 

Facing The Change: How a Psychotherapist During Menopause Can Help You Cope

nyc-female-psychotherapist-for-menopause-symptoms-life-changes-01They call it “The Change” and that somewhat undersells the gravity of it. More technically speaking it is called menopause. You may find yourself asking if you need to consult a psychotherapist during menopause. It is indeed a life change and a rather big one that women face during their middle age years. There are physical, mental, and emotional changes that occur during this process. All of it can be upsetting and even overwhelming. Many women find that they need support during this time. Learn all about the changes you may face and how a therapist can support you through them:

Physical Changes

Menopause is primarily considered a physical change brought about by a shift in hormones. Production of a key hormone, Estrogen, declines. This results in menstrual changes. Most women will experience irregular menstruation for some time, followed eventually by menstruation ceasing all together.

Simultaneously, many women experience hot flashes (a sudden rise in body temperature), difficulty sleeping such as insomnia, and weight gain. These physical changes can be challenging and difficult to adjust to. Many women seek medical intervention to alleviate these physical symptoms.

Mental Changes

female-menopause-symptoms-infographic-top-nyc-specialist-therapist-lcsw-02Perhaps less talked about are the mental changes that also tend to occur during menopause. Some of these are the result of the hormonal fluctuations which seem to affect a woman’s general physical and mental functioning. The poor sleep associated with menopause can also contribute to these changes.

The mental changes can include decreased abilities to concentrate and focus. Along with this, many women report declines in memory, which may themselves be a result of poorer concentration. Women, especially high-achieving women and those with busy schedules, may find these changes distressing.

Emotional Changes

Equally distressing for many women are the emotional changes that occur during menopause. Many women find themselves simply feeling more emotional than they typically would be and also find that they are more easily upset. Some women even experience significant levels of anxiety and depression.

Again, the hormonal changes of menopause are the primary culprit and cause of the emotional changes. Additionally, some of those emotional reactions are also a product of the repercussions of menopause. For many women this is a clear sign of their aging and it means they are no longer able to have children.

Relationship Changes

menopause-women-therapy-issues-licensed-clinical-psychotherapist-03Along with these main three areas of change, many women also notice a downshift in sexual drive. This is a result of the hormonal, physical, and emotional changes of menopause. However, this too can affect women emotionally, as it may affect their relationship with their spouse or romantic partner.

More broadly, women may experience some sense of social change, not just because of menopause and its effects on relationships but also because this time of life may mean other changes are happening too. For example, this is often a time when adult children are leaving home or moving into their own lives.

Closing Thoughts

As you can see, menopause brings with it many changes that can sometimes be difficult to process. For this reason, many women seek the support of a therapist. Counseling is not always just for mental health problems. It can be helpful to anyone who is adjusting to some new situation or status in life.

A trained and skilled counselor can help a woman adjust to the physical, mental, emotional, and social changes that occur during menopause. In some cases, couples counseling may also be helpful during this time.

If you are considering counseling for menopause, contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Laurie specializes in working with women of all ages to help them better cope with life changes and challenges.

Empty Nests and Midlife Crises: Seeking a Psychotherapist for Midlife Crisis and Beyond

psychotherapist-midlife-crisis-empty-nest-nyc-female-01Do I need a psychotherapist for midlife crisis? Empty nest? Historically, the perception was that development seemed to stop around the time that people reach their adult years. However, as people are living longer than ever before and as research has gotten a better grasp on development, the field of psychology now knows that people are truly developing throughout their lives. This includes the period commonly called midlife and even beyond that. These years can be so full of activity and changes that many people seek out therapy. Learn more about why:

Facing an Empty Nest

One big change that many people experience during their midlife years is the prospect of an empty nest. After years of raising children, and dealing with all the many details that entails, an empty nest might seem like something to look forward to. However, once children start leaving the home for college and work, many parents find themselves feeling emotions they did not anticipate. It can be sad to say goodbye and a wake-up call that along with their children, they are themselves facing a big life change.

Facing Role and Relationship Changes

therapy-empty-nest-midlife-problems-top-nyc-psychotherapist-02Midlife also brings with it some major role changes. If you have been a parent, you certainly do not lose that status. However, being a parent to college-aged or adult children may appear differently than it did previously. Further, your children might start having children of their own, which could shift your role from parent to grandparent. While your role changes within the family unit, you may also notice changes in your relationship with your spouse. For years, you may have been busy co-parenting together and now you may need to rediscover each other and rebuild your relationship as a couple.

Changes at home may be met with many changes at work as well. You may be more advanced in your workplace, which could allow for promotions and new opportunities. You might be taking on leadership roles that offer more responsibility. Alternatively, you may decide you have grown tired of your career or workplace and look towards making a change. At some point, you will likely decide to retire from work, which may allow more time to rediscover or find new hobbies. If your financial status is strong you may be able to spend time volunteering or engaged in charity work. If it is not, you may face stress.

Facing the Golden Years

therapist-for-empty-nest-lonely-midlife-issues-03Going into what many call the golden years may be both an exciting and daunting prospect. You may be feeling good about all you have accomplished at work, at home, and in your relationships. If so, you may be excited to spend some quality years in retirement. If you look back on your life and find yourself wishing you could have done more, then the golden years may not seem so golden. Many people find themselves wanting to talk to a counselor for support as they reach the end of their lives.

Closing Thoughts

The years of midlife and beyond can be surprisingly difficult. Most people experience many changes in their personal and work life. It can be helpful to attend therapy to process through all these changes so that those golden years can be a little more golden.

If you are considering seeking help from a psychotherapist for issues related to aging, contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Laurie can help.

Visit our main website: www.LaurieSloane.com

Repairing the Rupture: Working with a Psychotherapist for Infidelity

psychotherapist-for-infidelity-cheating-spouse-partner-01When a relationship has been hit with infidelity, it can rupture the trust between partners, and entirely change their dynamic from that point forward. Many couples may find themselves entirely uncertain about how to repair the situation, and seek the help of a psychotherapist for infidelity issues. Further, each partner may also be struggling with their own reactions. After an affair, especially if a couple wants to repair the relationship, they may find it helpful to work with a psychotherapist. Learn more about the repercussions of infidelity and how a therapist can help:

Effects of Infidelity for the Betrayed

When you think about the repercussions of infidelity, whether it may be a one-night stand or a long-term affair, you might most often think about the effects it would have on the betrayed partner. Indeed, that is the person in the union that most people would feel most sympathetic towards.

Similarly, the betrayed partner will have many reactions including feeling deceived or lied to and a sense that trust was betrayed. These reactions could also cause anxiety and sadness. In some cases, the betrayed may even feel a sense of low self-esteem or low self-worth in the wake of an affair. This partner may find counseling helpful to help them cope with what happened and the resulting reactions.

Effects of Infidelity for the Unfaithful

nyc-couples-therapist-for-cheating-trust-issues-02Although most people might initially feel most sympathetic towards the betrayed partner in a union, the unfaithful partner (that is the one who committed infidelity) might also be dealing with many different reactions. They may be feeling guilt or shame and they may experience their own self-deprecating thoughts regarding their actions. Depending on the prospects of resolution, they may also be depressed.

Further, the unfaithful partner may have already been dealing with something that led to their affair. It could have been that they were feeling unfulfilled in the relationship or alienated in some way. This is not to excuse their behavior; however, it is another component that may need to be addressed to resolve the situation. Therapy can help with both the pre-existing problems and the resulting reactions.

Effects of Infidelity for the Relationship

top-couples-therapy-psychotherapist-nyc-03Of course, not only each partner will be affected by infidelity, but the relationship as a whole will also be altered. It is for this reason that many couples find it necessary to seek couples counseling after an affair has occurred. Relationship counseling can help a couple to work through what has happened and help them to identify what steps they want to take next for their relationship.

In some cases, partners may want to repair the rupture that occurred and certainly couples counseling can help with that. In other cases, the partners may find it impossible or prefer not to repair the relationship. A couples therapist can also assist partners in reaching an amicable end to the relationship.

Closing Thoughts

Infidelity can have a big impact on a relationship and the partners involved. It is not easy for couples to repair the rupture, especially without outside help. If your relationship has been affected by infidelity consider working with a counselor.

Contact experienced relationship therapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for relationship counseling.

For more information please visit my main website : www.LaurieSloane.com

The Sadness of Saying Goodbye: When to See a Psychotherapist for Grief

nyc-psychotherapist-for-grief-counseling-01Do you need to see a psychotherapist for grief? Loss is an inevitable and difficult part of life. It can occur in many forms. Most commonly it occurs through the death of a loved one. Other times it can be the loss of a pet, a place, or part of one’s self. The resulting reaction is typically called grief and it can be complicated. Today’s world may say that you should be able to work through that grief and move on in a matter of weeks. However, that is not always possible. Sometimes, you may need help through therapy to cope with a loss. Learn more:

Typical Grief Response

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An incidence of grief usually starts after learning of some loss. You may have heard that people typically go through certain responses during the grief process. Some research says that people go through stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

  • Denial encapsulates the initial response of wanting to believe the loss is not true.
  • Once the denial dissipates, people may feel anger at the perceived cause of the loss.
  • Bargaining includes attempts to resolve the situation (such as asking a higher power for help).
  • Depression often occurs when the person loses any hope of resolution.
  • Acceptance happens once the person comes to terms with the situation.

While this sounds like a difficult process, it is also conveyed as simply a series of stages you must get through before the grief will resolve. However, grief is more complex than that and many people do not simply follow these stages. They may cycle back to previous stages or never reach acceptance.

Further, grief can contain many more emotions than anger and depression. Depending on the situation, you might experience several complex emotions simultaneously. For example, perhaps you lost someone, but they were suffering and in pain, so you feel sad but relieved.

There is a lot that can occur in a “normal” or “typical” grief response. Many people find it helpful to seek support in processing through their grief. It can be nice to have a counselor available who will listen and guide you through the process no matter what stage you are in or what specific reaction you have.

Unexpected Grief Reactions

top-nyc-psychotherapist-for-grief-counseling-03Historically, grief was typically given more time and tradition. People were in mourning for an extended period. They wore black so that the world around them knew they were grieving. This was not to mark them in a negative way, instead it honored the gravity of their loss.

In today’s culture, there is not a lot of time or tradition given to grieving. Sure, there will be a funeral if you lose a person. But many workplaces expect people to return to work in a matter of weeks. The loss of a pet may garner too little sympathy. If you lose something more ambiguous such as a home to a fire or a career path you had planned, then you might be grieving without others recognizing.

In any of these cases, people can experience grief that may be more difficult to resolve. Sometimes there may be intense anxiety (such as being afraid of separation from loved ones for fear they may die too) or intense depression that does not resolve (and instead starts to impair daily functioning.

In these situations, counseling can become imperative. Counselors are trained to assist people with complicated bereavement processes. Therapists can also help you to resolve any anxiety and depression that may have grown out of your grief reaction.

Closing Thoughts

Grief can be complex and sometimes people require additional support to work through it. If you find that you need support to process your grief and return to the business of living, consider seeking the support of a counselor.

Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan today at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment, she can help guide you through the bereavement process.

For more information, please visit my main website at: www.LaurieSloane.com

Your Relationship with Food: When to Seek a Psychotherapist for an Eating Disorder

top-nyc-female-therapist-for-eating-disorders-01Should you consult a psychotherapist for an eating disorder? Incidences of eating disorders are on the rise in both women and men. More broadly, many people are struggling with disordered eating, which is a term that captures a challenging relationship with food, that does not necessarily meet criteria to be diagnosed as an eating disorder. Your body image and your relationship with food can seriously affect your quality of life. It can also be difficult to alter these areas on your own. Learn how counseling can be a crucial part of treating these mental health concerns:

Eating Disorders Defined

You may have heard of eating disorders. They are often depicted on television and movies. Sometimes, eating disorders can present with complex symptoms and can even become dangerous. In fact, there are 3 forms of eating disorder that a person may be affected by. Each has its own symptoms and risks.

psychotherapist-for-people-with-eating-disorders-02Anorexia nervosa may appear as the most commonly talked about disorder. This involves restriction of eating. Oftentimes, the person will get to a point where they eat very little or nothing on a regular basis. As a result, they lose weight and their health can be at significant risk. The disorder can result in death.

Bulimia nervosa is also well known. This disorder involves engaging in a cycle of binging and purging behaviors. A binge is defined as eating a large amount of food in a very short time period, with a sense of loss of control over one’s eating. A purge is intended to eliminate that food. This is usually done through vomiting, but it can also be done with the use of laxatives and excessive exercise.

Another, lesser known eating disorder is called binge eating disorder. This involves engaging in binging behaviors without the purging behaviors. This disorder can cause weight gain. Both bulimia and binge eating disorder can be difficult to manage, with health effects that increase over time.

Anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge eating disorder are all serious conditions. They are each incredibly difficult for a person to manage or eliminate on their own. If you suspect you have one of these conditions, it is important to seek therapy from someone experienced in treating eating disorders.

Disordered Eating Concerns

anorexia-bulimia-binge-eating-disorders-psychotherapist-specialist-nyc-03Not every unusual eating behavior will fit neatly into one of the above categories. Some symptoms may overlap or not quite measure up. This does not mean that those symptoms are not cause for concern. Instead, they may constitute disordered eating behaviors that would also benefit from treatment.

In the category of disordered eating could be behaviors such frequent dieting, excessive exercise, and constant critiques of one’s body. Such behaviors could be the result of poor body image and low self-esteem. If left unchecked, these concerns could grow and become a bigger problem such as a more clearly defined eating disorder. For this reason, it is important to seek therapeutic help right away.

Closing Thoughts

If you suspect you have an eating disorder or if you have noticed that you are engaging in disordered eating behaviors, then you will want to seek help. A trained and experienced counselor can assist you in addressing these concerns.

Contact experienced and Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 today to schedule an appointment for treatment of your eating related concerns.

For more information, please visit my main website: www.LaurieSloane.com

See our other blog post on this topic: https://www.best-therapist-nyc.com/top-therapist-in-nyc-will-therapy-help-eating-disorders/

Psychotherapist for Divorce

Making the Divide: Why You Should See a Psychotherapist for Divorce

therapist-for-divorce-counseling-ny-01If your relationship is on the rocks, you may start considering divorce. There can be many conditions that might lead a couple in this direction. Even in difficult situations, it can still be a difficult choice. Many people will find they could benefit from the help of a psychotherapist as they finalize that decision. Once the decision is settled, then a counselor can also help a couple work through the process of divorce. Learn more about why you should see a psychotherapist for divorce:

Considering Divorce

Many situations can lead a person to consider divorce. There could have been infidelity or some other breach of trust. There could be excessive arguments or differences you can no longer work past. There could be alienation or abandonment. One or both partners may have simply changed over time, such that the relationship no longer works. When this becomes a possibility some couples do seek help.

When you find yourself considering divorce and you want to repair the relationship, this is a perfect time to seek the support of a couples counselor. Sometimes couples find they simply cannot mend their relationship on their own. However, the help of a trained professional can allow couples to strengthen their communication with one another and give them a safe space to work through their problems.

Deciding on Divorce

deciding-divorce-best-female-ny-psychotherapist-02Sometimes even the help of therapy cannot repair a relationship. One or both parties may find themselves at an impasse where they really want to leave. Meeting with a counselor either for individual therapy or for couples therapy can help you make that decision. It may be more helpful to meet with a therapist one-on-one if just one party is in the position of considering divorce. Otherwise, the couple may work with a couples therapist to collectively work towards that decision together.

Planning for Divorce

top-nyc-therapist-divorce-planning-process-03Oftentimes, couples will have already made the decision for divorce before starting couples counseling or they make that decision during the process of relationship therapy. This is perfectly acceptable, the goal of attending relationship counseling is to help the couple get where they need to be, and that may not always be reparation. The good news is relationship counseling can also be used to plan for divorce.

You may wonder why you would want to see a psychotherapist for divorce planning. Well, the truth is that divorce can be a challenging process. This is true even if the partners are separating amicably. There can be many logistics to work through, such as dividing property and debt. The situation may become even more challenging if you share children—you certainly need to have an amicable relationship.

Attending counseling during the process of your divorce can be tremendously helpful for partners who need to learn how to co-parent separately. A divorce counselor can assist divorcing partners in learning how to communicate in ways that will be healthy for both them and their children. Counseling can also help to mediate the planning of logistics around co-parenting, such as sharing time with one another.

Closing Thoughts

When you are considering divorce or working your way through the process consider receiving counseling with a trained and experienced provider, who can help you to work through the situation. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for relationship counseling. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Laurie can meet any couple where they are at to work on their relationship or assist them in the process of planning for divorce.

 

Psychotherapist for Alcohol Abuse

Battling the Bottle: When to Seek a Psychotherapist for Alcohol Abuse

If you struggle with alcohol abuse or alcoholism, you might find it rather difficult to stop drinking on your own. This is because the use of alcohol can be highly addictive once you have developed a dependence on it and it may ultimately be more powerful than simply your will to quit. Given the challenges of the battle, many people choose to seek out the support of a psychotherapist for alcohol abuse. Learn more about the challenges of battling alcohol abuse and how a therapist can help:

Effects of Alcohol Abuse

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Individuals who abuse alcohol may find themselves drinking frequently and throughout the day. On some level you know that it is not healthy to engage in this behavior, but it can be difficult to resist. You might find yourself constantly making excuses for your drinking or planning to cut back someday soon.

Soon you may find the alcohol abuse taking its toll on your personal and professional life. You might show up to work late or hungover. It may be difficult to hide from your boss and coworkers that you have been drinking. When you get home, if you start drinking fairly quickly, it can be difficult to engage with your family and manage typical home activities like cooking, cleaning, and laundry.

You may want to quit but quitting can be easier said than done. You may need support in quitting and that support could be obtained by seeking therapy. In the counseling setting, you may also be able to discuss and identify what factors could have led to your alcohol abuse to begin with.

Causes of Alcohol Abuse

When you think of the causes of alcohol abuse, you might think that the answer should be obvious. After all, surely drinking alcohol is the cause of alcohol abuse. However, the cause of alcohol abuse is not so obvious as it might seem. Oftentimes, alcohol abuse grew out of other problems.

Many people turn to using alcohol to help them cope. Sometimes people do this for short-term coping, such as before they go into a situation that might make them feel anxious. Other times, people start using alcohol because they have unresolved emotions from their childhood and adult life that they do not know how to resolve. The alcohol may serve to numb those emotions. While this may seem to work, of course, the alcohol abuse does have its own negative consequences, so it is not a real solution.

Support for Alcohol Abuse

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When you think about seeking support for alcohol abuse, what you really need is two solutions. First, you need someone who will be your ally and your coach in the battle against alcohol abuse. Second, you also need to work with someone who can help you resolve the underlying problems that motivated the alcohol abuse to begin with. A trained therapist can assist you with both of these areas.

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Counselors can help people to set goals for reducing or stopping their alcohol use. They can help you build and maintain the motivation for doing this. They can support you as you endeavor to reach those goals and can help you trouble-shoot if something goes wrong. As noted, they can also assist you in resolving any emotional problems that might have been motivating your excessive use.

Closing Thoughts

Alcohol abuse is a real problem and it is not easily resolved on your own. If you want to reduce your alcohol use and regain control over your life, consider seeking the support of a counselor. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for alcohol abuse counseling. Laurie can help you reduce your use and support you in the battle for sobriety.

 

 

 

 

 

Psychotherapist for Adoption Related Issues

Unexpected Deliveries: Seeking a Psychotherapist for Adoption Related Issues

therapist-for-adoptive-issues-children-parents-nyc-01Adoption is a complex process for everyone involved. For prospective parents, adoption may be an option they pursue after other routes towards parenthood did not work out. This can make the emotions involved multi-faceted. For adopted children, there may also be a mix of emotions depending on the circumstances of the adoption, their age at the time of adoption, their age at the time they learn they are adopted, and their knowledge of their birth parents. Learn more about how therapy can help:

For Adoptive Parents

therapist-for-adopted-children-lgbtq-parents-nyc-02More couples than ever are struggling with issues of infertility. Such difficulties can be challenging for each partner and for the relationship. There may have been heartbreaks, setbacks, and battles with medical intervention that did not pan out. As a result, couples may start considering adoption as a route towards parenthood. Similarly, couples in the LGBT community have more freedom to marry and establish their lives together, which leads many to also choose to pursue parenthood through adoption.

The route towards adoption can bring with it many challenges. It can be a legal and financial battle. There are many optional paths to consider and each can include its own barriers. While adoption agencies are available to support prospective parents on the logistics, people may find themselves also needing more emotional support. This can occur on an individual or a couples basis in a therapy setting.

A therapist can assist anyone struggling with infertility and the decision towards adoption. The counseling setting can provide a safe space to process through the thoughts and emotions to make a well-thought out, prepared decision. Then, a therapist can be a supportive presence throughout the adoption process. It can be valuable to have that resource outside of family and friends, who may be supportive, but who may not understand all the complex emotions you may be struggling with.

For Adopted Children

problems-issues-adoption-nyc-therapist-03Meanwhile, children who are adopted may also face their fair share of struggle. If a child was placed into the foster care system or put up for adoption from difficult circumstances, they may need assistance in processing through that (especially if they were older throughout this process). For a child, there may be feelings of abandonment and they may be fearful of becoming attached to their new parents (with potentially some level of concern that they will be abandoned again).

A child psychologist may be a necessary resource for children as they adjust to their adoptive family. Children’s therapy assists adoptive children in various ways. This may occur through talking or through play therapy, if they are younger and less adept with language. Sometimes children will not need this resource right away. Instead, as children get older they may start to struggle with their adoptive status. In this case, it may be valuable for them to have someone outside the family to talk to about it.

Closing Thoughts

Whether you are an adoptive parent or an adopted child, you may find yourself needing support. Visiting a psychotherapist for adoption related issues, can give you the support that you need. Trained counselors can assist children and adults in individual therapy, couples counseling, or family therapy. If you want to seek therapy for issues related to adoption, contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 today to schedule an appointment. With over 30 years of experience as a counselor, Laurie is skilled at working with people of all ages, couples, and families on issues related to adoption. Consider meeting with her to help yourself, your child, and your whole family.

 

 

Psychotherapist for Family Conflict

More Than Just Family Drama: Why You Should Seek a Psychotherapist for Family Conflict

therapist-for-family-drama-conflicts-01Television and movies may make light of what is sometimes referred to as “family drama.” Sure, it can seem hilarious when presented with a comical flair and set against a laugh track. However, in real life “family drama” can quickly have much more weight to it. For people who grow up in families with conflict, it can have lasting repercussions for your future. If as an adult, you are battling family conflict, it can distract you from living your own best life. Learn how therapy can help you resolve family conflict:

Conflict in Your Family of Origin

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If you grew up in a home with high degrees of family conflict, you may remember everyone having strong emotions, being easily set off, and frequent fights. Hearing your parents fight frequently likely led to disagreements between yourself and your parents or siblings. After all, this is the communication style and pattern you had learned. It might have even seemed natural to frequently yell and scream at others.

As you moved into your adult years, you may have found yourself easily feeling stressed, sometimes communicating poorly, and in your own fair share of conflict (whether it was with friends, family, or even colleagues at work). These problems can all be the products of having grown up in a high conflict family. To improve your own life, you may find it beneficial to seek out therapeutic counseling so that you can resolve any lingering emotional damage caused by that difficult childhood environment.

Ongoing Conflict and Difficulty Cutting Ties

Another problem that people sometimes face is ongoing conflict with their family of origin. This could show up when parents have a difficult time letting their adult children go out, make their own decisions, and live their own life. Attempts to hold on could lead to family conflict. This could be difficult for many young adults as they want to devote their time and attention towards establishing a life of their own. Again, therapy can be helpful in assisting you to set boundaries with your family and make your own life.

Conflict in Your Current Family Home

therapist-for-family-conflict-home-03When there is conflict in your current family home, whether it is the result of replicating old communication patterns you saw in your childhood home or as the result of current stressors, it can be disruptive to everyone’s well-being. It may be that you are struggling in your spousal relationship or in your role as a parent. As that shows up in conflict, any children in the home will pick up on it as well.

Whatever the source of the family conflict, it is valuable to seek counseling to resolve it. If you find that the conflict seems to be the result of one person, then you or they may benefit from individual therapy. If it seems to be the result of problems in a spousal or romantic relationship, then couples counseling may be the solution. If there seems to be conflict throughout the entire family dynamic, then family counseling might be the best option. Visit a therapist to determine which resource your family needs.

Closing Thoughts

Being a part of family conflict can really affect many other areas of your life. You might find yourself struggling at home and at work. To resolve your experiences with family conflict either those related to your family of origin or your current family home, consider seeking the support of a therapist. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 today to schedule an appointment. She has the expertise and 30 years of experience in the field, to help you resolve your family conflict.