Laurie Sloane   Licensed Clinical Social Worker


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Over the past 30 years, a combination of diverse professional experiences and extensive training have made me the therapist I am today. In addition to a Master’s Degree in Social Work, I have participated in continuing education courses and seminars to ensure that I am incorporating the latest in psychoanalysis into treatment plans.

I joined the faculty of the Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Study Center (PPSC), a post-graduate training institute, and served as the Executive Director for 10 years. During my tenure, I taught and supervised candidates, developed an internship program for graduate students, and worked to establish guidelines for training and licensure in New York.  My expertise is broad and far-reaching.

My current areas of specialty are: 

Therapy for Young Adults

Of late, more attention has been focused on the well-being of anxious, depressed and suicidal students on college campuses. I have worked with many students trying to adjust to life away from home. The social and academic pressures of college can bring about the emergence of major mental illness and addiction that needs to be addressed with the proper treatment. In addition to individual sessions, I also offer group treatment to college students and young adults.

Therapy for Women of all ages

I have extensive experience in counseling women of all ages who suffer from eating disorders. Today, there are a variety of treatments available; I’m able to help navigate through the options and figure out which will work best on a case by case basis.

As baby boomers are aging, they are learning that menopause no longer spells the end. Life after 65 continues to be an important, yet often overlooked part of adult development. I’m able to offer support in either individual or group therapy sessions for women navigating midlife and beyond.

Therapy for Veterans

I am affiliated with Here to Help Military and Families, a Long Island group that offers free counseling to returning veterans and their families. I offer a holistic approach to treatment; for both veterans returning from combat, suffering from the effects of trauma and PTSD, as well as their families, who are struggling to understand how difficult reentry into civilian life can be.
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What can you gain from therapy?

Connection to others

Over the past 30 years, I’ve learned a lot about relationships and the value in sharing our thoughts and feelings with friends and partners. Knowing we are being listened to, valued and understood is crucial to emotional wellbeing.

Hope for the future

Therapy is a process. Though there is often no simple, quick solution, it provides a safe space to explore emotions, thoughts, and actions in an in-depth and meaningful way, to eventually bring about change.

Growth and change

Through continued treatment, therapy can be an incredibly powerful tool in helping to significantly improve your quality of life and outlook.

Call me today at 212-413-7088 for a free 15 minute phone consultation.

Group Therapy for Women in Midlife

Women in midlife and beyond join a new weekly group!

First meeting: June 5th 2019
Time: 6:30 to 8:00
Fee: $75.00 (can be covered by insurance out of network)

Why a Group?

Thinking out loud in the presence of others can be a very powerful tool to clarifying your issues and getting support.
Connection to others can help improve your mood and outlook and create resilience.

Why a Therapy Support Group?

Sometimes we need professional help to address the storm of emotions we are facing. As a therapist of many years, i am experienced in addressing conflicts and hopes. I can help you understand your needs and participate in a rich group experience.

When is Midlife?

Today, with many women in better health, physically and emotionally, we are working longer in the home and in our careers. We could argue that midlife ranges roughly from 50 to 75.

Are you struggling with changes in your emotional life or physical self?

As questions about your future come into focus and occupy more of your time and thoughts, you are probably in the middle years and thinking about your next chapter

Join me for an exciting journey during the middle of your life!

Laurie Sloane, LCSW
330 west 58th street
Suite 604
New York, NY 10019
laurie.sloane@gmail.com

516-697-7252

Couples Therapist

Why do Couples Seek Therapy?

Below are just some of the reasons couples call me for an appointment seeking a couples therapist. Once they come in, many couples discover they are ambivalent about continuing in the marriage or realize they want to work on problem areas and stay together.

Some Reasons Couples Seek out a Therapist:

  • Adjustment to living together
  • Conflicts over in-laws,
  • Money habits of saving and spending
  • Frequency of sex, decreased interest in sex
  • Infidelity
  • Ups and downs of love and longevity in marriage
  • Decision to Divorce or Stay together
  • Uncoupling (transitioning to separation and divorce)
  • Co-parenting after divorce

Sometimes, one partner has been having an affair and needs a safe pla

ce to disclose it.  I’ve worked with couples that decide to stay together after infidelity developing healthier relationships. Of course, lots of couples do not remain in the marriage and work towards divorce.  If enough trust and safety is created in the therapeutic relationship, the couple learns how to communicate their needs and wants more effectively. This often leads to a deeper connection and greater emotional and physical intimacy.

Examples From My Couples Therapy Sessions

examples-couples-therapist-nyc-consultation-02Let me give you an example of how showing more vulnerability helped develop more trust in the relationship. Just to be clear, this example is a composite of my experiences, not an actual couple in therapy with me.

Sally and John sat down on the couch next to each with some room between them.

Sally begin by saying they had been married a little over a year, and were fighting constantly but not sure why.  John agreed and added that they were less intimate in and out of bed.

During one of our early sessions, I asked each of them to say what attracted them to one another, in hopes of reminding them of the positive aspects of their connection.

By asking them to simply say what they each felt and listen carefully to one another, this freed them up to be less angry and more trusting in the relationship.

happy-relationship-successful-couples-therapist-ny-03As they learned more about each other’s backgrounds, they developed a more in depth understanding of some their patterns. These including overspending money because of early deprivation resulting in an insecure attachment to the mother, and multiple hospitalizations for a chronic childhood illness, which led to feelings of uncertainty and anxiety in adulthood.

Overtime, they developed more empathy for each and stopped fighting. Instead they listened better to each other and became more respectful and admiring. That’s not to say they didn’t have conflicts, but they learned to how to communicate better when they did have them.

Claims of Favoritism During the Therapy Process

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Sometimes one person in the couple will complain the therapist is partial to the other person. It is important to raise this question with the therapist and not be concerned about his or her reaction.  The Therapist is trained to reflect on his or her own experience. It’s called countertransference, which focused on the internal feelings of the therapist.  Sometimes, by bringing this up, a therapist will recognize what is leading to the question and adjust the way they are working, and use it as an opportunity to explore what’s leading to that feeling.

If for example, if a person struggles with sibling rivalry, it might get triggered in the treatment. In reflecting on experiences growing up, it also allows their partner to better understand them.

These are just a few examples of what comes up for couples and therapists in Couples Therapy. As I’ve suggested, it is a very rich and effective way to improve communication and connection.

If you are having relationship issues and think you could benefit from counseling, give me a call today and let’s discuss if you could benefit from couples therapy.

Laurie Sloane, LCSW
330 West 58th Street, Suite 604
New York, NY 10019
212-413-7088

For more information, visit my website: www.LaurieSloane.com

 

Midlife for Women in the Modern Day

What is midlife?  Medicine says it’s the period of time when our bodies prepare and enter peri-menopause and then menopause.

Midlife Can be Challenging

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During this complex phase of female adult development our perceptions of ourselves change.  We may no longer feel young, we may feel a sense of loss about leaving our first 45 years behind, which includes changes in our physical appearance, our energy levels, our health and our connections to a more youthful robust part our lives.

You may be thinking speak for yourself: in our youth oriented culture we often feel pressure to keep up our youthful appearances. At the same time, we try hard to keep up our health and physical stamina.  Many women report the beginnings of chronic health problems including skin rashes, insomnia, diabetes, chronic fatigue, and heart disease.  These conditions can be debilitating emotionally and physically during these middle years.

They signal to us that we can’t take our health for granted, we are not invincible as we thought we were at 21 or 39.

Before you get completely depressed or stop reading, please keep in mind our resiliency, our hope in the face of adversity and our strength as women in the middle of life. We benefit from the knowledge we have accumulated; we have better coping skills, support systems including friends, family and colleagues. Recently i read that spending a weekend with an old friend can be rejuvenating.

When we don’t have an adequate support system, we seek out connection to others by affiliating with schools, religious organizations, alumni groups, colleagues, book groups, and support groups.

Pondering the Past & Considering the Future

While we think about what we have left behind, we contemplate a richer life in the future.  We may be busy with what life puts in our path, such as elderly parents with health problems or adolescent or adult children with special needs. We are often called the sandwich generation because of all the pulls on our time and emotions. Putting feelings, thoughts and situations in perspective is important to our well being.

Knowing a crisis will pass, a situation with our family is temporary, helps us to endure.

A Therapist Can Help with Midlife Transition

Sometimes we need professional help to address the storm that we find ourselves facing.  Individual therapy and group therapy can be very helpful to address conflicts that reoccur from the past, difficulty coping with relationships and work, and worries about the future. Sometimes we need to think out loud in presence of another person who is trained to listen and help us understand our needs.  Group support and connection can be a very powerful tool during this journey as well.

In contemporary life, the age range of midlife has changed.

In the not to distant past, 35-40 was the start of midlife and by 60; we were considered old and life often ended by 72. Today, with many women in better health, physically and emotionally, and cognitively, we are working longer in the home and in our careers.  We could argue that midlife ranges roughly from 50 to 75.

What do you think? Do you Feel Like You’re in Your Middle Years?

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As we age, and move into our late 60’s and 70’s, many women are thinking about the future. Do we want to retire, do we have the finances for it, where do we want to move, what will our health be like in the future, do we want to live near our adult children and grandchildren?

As these questions come into focus and occupy more of your time and thoughts, you are probably moving into the middle years and thinking about your next chapter.

If you are entering midlife and having challenges or anxiety, call me today and let’s schedule an appointment. I have many years of experience counseling other women about life changes and midlife.  I look forward to hearing from you.

Call me today at 212-413-7088 for a free 15 minute phone consultation.

Laurie Sloane, LCSW
 https://www.lauriesloane.com

Healing from the Past: Working with a Psychotherapist for Trauma and PTSD

trauma-ptsd-psychotherapy-nyc-top-specialist-01Do I need a psychotherapist for trauma and PTSD? Unfortunately, life can present people with difficult circumstances. Sometimes, people face challenges that can even be terrifying and life threatening. You might consider events such as car accidents, muggings, terrorist attacks, and being at war as most obviously fitting within these categories. Being subjected to abuse or neglect as a child might also match. Such events can lead to trauma reactions and even PTSD. To resolve the trauma response, most people will want to see a trained counselor:

Adjustment Disorders

In the face of some life circumstances, some individuals may struggle to adjust. Such circumstance can include many different types of life changes. It could be moving to a new setting, dealing with a new role, or even experiencing a break up. People may notice reactions in themselves as they struggle to adjust. However, those reactions are not necessarily trauma related or diagnosable as PTSD.

A major difference is the circumstances, which in this case are not necessarily terrifying and certainly not life threatening. The reaction is also different. Difficulty with adjustment may result in some anxiety and depression, but not necessarily the same traumatic responses that might be expected to occur following a more serious event. Nonetheless, it can be valuable to seek therapeutic support.

Acute Stress Disorder

psychotherapy-for-trauma-ptsd-can-help-nyc-expert-02Other times, people do face more significant events that lead to more troubling symptoms. If a life-threatening or particularly terrifying event occurs, followed by severe symptoms, then a diagnosis of acute stress disorder might be considered. This diagnosis can be made between 1 week and 30 days after the event. After 30 days, a diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder should be considered.

The symptoms that characterize acute stress disorder include intrusive thoughts or memories about the event. This might occur through flashbacks. Such intrusive thoughts and memories can also occur during sleep through nightmares. People may also find themselves becoming hypervigilant—always aware of their environment and the challenges they may face. They may want to avoid certain situations that seem to remind them of the trauma event they occurred. In time, this can be reinforced such that it becomes increasingly difficult for the person to engage in their general daily activities.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

top-female-nyc-psychotherapist-for-childhhood-trauma-03If treated early, acute stress disorder may be resolved and then it will not develop into PTSD. Other times, PTSD does develop as a result of the circumstances faced, the symptoms, and their timeframe. Notably, PTSD symptoms can also emerge some time after the event, in what is called delayed onset.

PTSD can be really difficult to manage. It can affect a person’s daily functioning, their relationships with others, and even their ability to work. Most people who develop PTSD need the support of a therapist to work through the trauma events that are causing this severe reaction. With counseling, they can process what happened, learn to cope with it, and improve their overall well-being. However, it can be a difficult process, so most people would want a therapist who they feel very comfortable with.

Closing Thoughts

Trauma experiences and trauma reactions can be significant problems that alter a person’s mental health and ability to function. If you need help coping with a trauma event, consider seeking the support of a counselor.

Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan today at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for counseling. Laurie can help you heal the pain of your past and improve your life.

www.LaurieSloane.com

Strengthening the Bonds: When to Use a Psychotherapist for Relationship Issues

top-nyc-psychotherapist-for-relationship-issues-couples-01Do I need a psychotherapist for relationship issues? There is some outdated notion that if a relationship is meant to be, it will easily fall into place. That is not entirely true. Of course, too much struggle is a sign of a problematic relationship that should perhaps not be maintained. However, healthy relationships do require a balance of ease alongside purposeful work intended to build, strengthen, and maintain the relationship over time. Oftentimes, couples elect to use relationship counseling to support the longevity of their relationship.

Counseling for Pre-Marital Preparation

One good time to attend relationship counseling is before you commit into marriage. Shifting from dating to fiancés to a married couple can be a big change. As your relationship status changes and your life shifts accordingly, it can be helpful to talk over all the details in pre-marital counseling.

A relationship counselor can assist an engaged couple in establishing healthy communication patterns, figuring out what their married life will look like, and equip them to deal with anything unexpected that may occur during their lives together. This is a good investment of time to plan for a marriage not just a wedding. Most couples counselors can provide pre-marital counseling if you just request it.

Counseling a Distressed Relationship

counseling-improve-relationships-marriage-top-nyc-couples-therapist-02Often couples seek out counseling when they are facing some distress in their relationship that may seem to threaten the health or longevity of it. There are many different circumstances that can cause distress in a couples’ relationship. Each couple may experience their own compilation of challenges.

Some couples find they grow apart over time and need assistance growing back together. Some couples face unique difficulties such as a miscarriage or the loss of a child. Others may face difficulties in communication and emotional withdrawal from one another. Still others may face trust issues they need to resolve. It can sometimes be difficult to know how to repair such matters without outside help.

Strengthening Any Committed Relationship

happy-couple-psychotherapist-success-counseling-03Even still, the choice to attend couples counseling does not necessarily require a big change in the relationship or a significant problem. Many couples choose to attend relationship counseling simply to strengthen their relationship and perhaps to avoid any major relationship problems in the future.

Attending relationship counseling can give a couple the chance to discuss their similarities and differences, their communication styles, and the way those factors could affect their interactions with one another. Couples can learn how to communicate most effectively with each other, how to have healthy disagreements, and how to work through difficult times together rather than drawing apart.

Closing Thoughts

Relationships are not always easy and sometimes a couple needs the assistance of another perspective to help them build a solid foundation, strengthen it over time, and work through any challenges they may face.

If you want to pursue relationship counseling, consider contacting Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 today, to schedule an appointment. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Laurie has helped many couples strengthen their bonds. She can help you too.

www.LaurieSloane.com

 

Repairing the Rupture: Working with a Psychotherapist for Infidelity

psychotherapist-for-infidelity-cheating-spouse-partner-01When a relationship has been hit with infidelity, it can rupture the trust between partners, and entirely change their dynamic from that point forward. Many couples may find themselves entirely uncertain about how to repair the situation, and seek the help of a psychotherapist for infidelity issues. Further, each partner may also be struggling with their own reactions. After an affair, especially if a couple wants to repair the relationship, they may find it helpful to work with a psychotherapist. Learn more about the repercussions of infidelity and how a therapist can help:

Effects of Infidelity for the Betrayed

When you think about the repercussions of infidelity, whether it may be a one-night stand or a long-term affair, you might most often think about the effects it would have on the betrayed partner. Indeed, that is the person in the union that most people would feel most sympathetic towards.

Similarly, the betrayed partner will have many reactions including feeling deceived or lied to and a sense that trust was betrayed. These reactions could also cause anxiety and sadness. In some cases, the betrayed may even feel a sense of low self-esteem or low self-worth in the wake of an affair. This partner may find counseling helpful to help them cope with what happened and the resulting reactions.

Effects of Infidelity for the Unfaithful

nyc-couples-therapist-for-cheating-trust-issues-02Although most people might initially feel most sympathetic towards the betrayed partner in a union, the unfaithful partner (that is the one who committed infidelity) might also be dealing with many different reactions. They may be feeling guilt or shame and they may experience their own self-deprecating thoughts regarding their actions. Depending on the prospects of resolution, they may also be depressed.

Further, the unfaithful partner may have already been dealing with something that led to their affair. It could have been that they were feeling unfulfilled in the relationship or alienated in some way. This is not to excuse their behavior; however, it is another component that may need to be addressed to resolve the situation. Therapy can help with both the pre-existing problems and the resulting reactions.

Effects of Infidelity for the Relationship

top-couples-therapy-psychotherapist-nyc-03Of course, not only each partner will be affected by infidelity, but the relationship as a whole will also be altered. It is for this reason that many couples find it necessary to seek couples counseling after an affair has occurred. Relationship counseling can help a couple to work through what has happened and help them to identify what steps they want to take next for their relationship.

In some cases, partners may want to repair the rupture that occurred and certainly couples counseling can help with that. In other cases, the partners may find it impossible or prefer not to repair the relationship. A couples therapist can also assist partners in reaching an amicable end to the relationship.

Closing Thoughts

Infidelity can have a big impact on a relationship and the partners involved. It is not easy for couples to repair the rupture, especially without outside help. If your relationship has been affected by infidelity consider working with a counselor.

Contact experienced relationship therapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for relationship counseling.

For more information please visit my main website : www.LaurieSloane.com

The Sadness of Saying Goodbye: When to See a Psychotherapist for Grief

nyc-psychotherapist-for-grief-counseling-01Do you need to see a psychotherapist for grief? Loss is an inevitable and difficult part of life. It can occur in many forms. Most commonly it occurs through the death of a loved one. Other times it can be the loss of a pet, a place, or part of one’s self. The resulting reaction is typically called grief and it can be complicated. Today’s world may say that you should be able to work through that grief and move on in a matter of weeks. However, that is not always possible. Sometimes, you may need help through therapy to cope with a loss. Learn more:

Typical Grief Response

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An incidence of grief usually starts after learning of some loss. You may have heard that people typically go through certain responses during the grief process. Some research says that people go through stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

  • Denial encapsulates the initial response of wanting to believe the loss is not true.
  • Once the denial dissipates, people may feel anger at the perceived cause of the loss.
  • Bargaining includes attempts to resolve the situation (such as asking a higher power for help).
  • Depression often occurs when the person loses any hope of resolution.
  • Acceptance happens once the person comes to terms with the situation.

While this sounds like a difficult process, it is also conveyed as simply a series of stages you must get through before the grief will resolve. However, grief is more complex than that and many people do not simply follow these stages. They may cycle back to previous stages or never reach acceptance.

Further, grief can contain many more emotions than anger and depression. Depending on the situation, you might experience several complex emotions simultaneously. For example, perhaps you lost someone, but they were suffering and in pain, so you feel sad but relieved.

There is a lot that can occur in a “normal” or “typical” grief response. Many people find it helpful to seek support in processing through their grief. It can be nice to have a counselor available who will listen and guide you through the process no matter what stage you are in or what specific reaction you have.

Unexpected Grief Reactions

top-nyc-psychotherapist-for-grief-counseling-03Historically, grief was typically given more time and tradition. People were in mourning for an extended period. They wore black so that the world around them knew they were grieving. This was not to mark them in a negative way, instead it honored the gravity of their loss.

In today’s culture, there is not a lot of time or tradition given to grieving. Sure, there will be a funeral if you lose a person. But many workplaces expect people to return to work in a matter of weeks. The loss of a pet may garner too little sympathy. If you lose something more ambiguous such as a home to a fire or a career path you had planned, then you might be grieving without others recognizing.

In any of these cases, people can experience grief that may be more difficult to resolve. Sometimes there may be intense anxiety (such as being afraid of separation from loved ones for fear they may die too) or intense depression that does not resolve (and instead starts to impair daily functioning.

In these situations, counseling can become imperative. Counselors are trained to assist people with complicated bereavement processes. Therapists can also help you to resolve any anxiety and depression that may have grown out of your grief reaction.

Closing Thoughts

Grief can be complex and sometimes people require additional support to work through it. If you find that you need support to process your grief and return to the business of living, consider seeking the support of a counselor.

Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan today at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment, she can help guide you through the bereavement process.

For more information, please visit my main website at: www.LaurieSloane.com

Your Relationship with Food: When to Seek a Psychotherapist for an Eating Disorder

top-nyc-female-therapist-for-eating-disorders-01Should you consult a psychotherapist for an eating disorder? Incidences of eating disorders are on the rise in both women and men. More broadly, many people are struggling with disordered eating, which is a term that captures a challenging relationship with food, that does not necessarily meet criteria to be diagnosed as an eating disorder. Your body image and your relationship with food can seriously affect your quality of life. It can also be difficult to alter these areas on your own. Learn how counseling can be a crucial part of treating these mental health concerns:

Eating Disorders Defined

You may have heard of eating disorders. They are often depicted on television and movies. Sometimes, eating disorders can present with complex symptoms and can even become dangerous. In fact, there are 3 forms of eating disorder that a person may be affected by. Each has its own symptoms and risks.

psychotherapist-for-people-with-eating-disorders-02Anorexia nervosa may appear as the most commonly talked about disorder. This involves restriction of eating. Oftentimes, the person will get to a point where they eat very little or nothing on a regular basis. As a result, they lose weight and their health can be at significant risk. The disorder can result in death.

Bulimia nervosa is also well known. This disorder involves engaging in a cycle of binging and purging behaviors. A binge is defined as eating a large amount of food in a very short time period, with a sense of loss of control over one’s eating. A purge is intended to eliminate that food. This is usually done through vomiting, but it can also be done with the use of laxatives and excessive exercise.

Another, lesser known eating disorder is called binge eating disorder. This involves engaging in binging behaviors without the purging behaviors. This disorder can cause weight gain. Both bulimia and binge eating disorder can be difficult to manage, with health effects that increase over time.

Anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge eating disorder are all serious conditions. They are each incredibly difficult for a person to manage or eliminate on their own. If you suspect you have one of these conditions, it is important to seek therapy from someone experienced in treating eating disorders.

Disordered Eating Concerns

anorexia-bulimia-binge-eating-disorders-psychotherapist-specialist-nyc-03Not every unusual eating behavior will fit neatly into one of the above categories. Some symptoms may overlap or not quite measure up. This does not mean that those symptoms are not cause for concern. Instead, they may constitute disordered eating behaviors that would also benefit from treatment.

In the category of disordered eating could be behaviors such frequent dieting, excessive exercise, and constant critiques of one’s body. Such behaviors could be the result of poor body image and low self-esteem. If left unchecked, these concerns could grow and become a bigger problem such as a more clearly defined eating disorder. For this reason, it is important to seek therapeutic help right away.

Closing Thoughts

If you suspect you have an eating disorder or if you have noticed that you are engaging in disordered eating behaviors, then you will want to seek help. A trained and experienced counselor can assist you in addressing these concerns.

Contact experienced and Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 today to schedule an appointment for treatment of your eating related concerns.

For more information, please visit my main website: www.LaurieSloane.com

See our other blog post on this topic: https://www.best-therapist-nyc.com/top-therapist-in-nyc-will-therapy-help-eating-disorders/

Psychotherapist for Divorce

Making the Divide: Why You Should See a Psychotherapist for Divorce

therapist-for-divorce-counseling-ny-01If your relationship is on the rocks, you may start considering divorce. There can be many conditions that might lead a couple in this direction. Even in difficult situations, it can still be a difficult choice. Many people will find they could benefit from the help of a psychotherapist as they finalize that decision. Once the decision is settled, then a counselor can also help a couple work through the process of divorce. Learn more about why you should see a psychotherapist for divorce:

Considering Divorce

Many situations can lead a person to consider divorce. There could have been infidelity or some other breach of trust. There could be excessive arguments or differences you can no longer work past. There could be alienation or abandonment. One or both partners may have simply changed over time, such that the relationship no longer works. When this becomes a possibility some couples do seek help.

When you find yourself considering divorce and you want to repair the relationship, this is a perfect time to seek the support of a couples counselor. Sometimes couples find they simply cannot mend their relationship on their own. However, the help of a trained professional can allow couples to strengthen their communication with one another and give them a safe space to work through their problems.

Deciding on Divorce

deciding-divorce-best-female-ny-psychotherapist-02Sometimes even the help of therapy cannot repair a relationship. One or both parties may find themselves at an impasse where they really want to leave. Meeting with a counselor either for individual therapy or for couples therapy can help you make that decision. It may be more helpful to meet with a therapist one-on-one if just one party is in the position of considering divorce. Otherwise, the couple may work with a couples therapist to collectively work towards that decision together.

Planning for Divorce

top-nyc-therapist-divorce-planning-process-03Oftentimes, couples will have already made the decision for divorce before starting couples counseling or they make that decision during the process of relationship therapy. This is perfectly acceptable, the goal of attending relationship counseling is to help the couple get where they need to be, and that may not always be reparation. The good news is relationship counseling can also be used to plan for divorce.

You may wonder why you would want to see a psychotherapist for divorce planning. Well, the truth is that divorce can be a challenging process. This is true even if the partners are separating amicably. There can be many logistics to work through, such as dividing property and debt. The situation may become even more challenging if you share children—you certainly need to have an amicable relationship.

Attending counseling during the process of your divorce can be tremendously helpful for partners who need to learn how to co-parent separately. A divorce counselor can assist divorcing partners in learning how to communicate in ways that will be healthy for both them and their children. Counseling can also help to mediate the planning of logistics around co-parenting, such as sharing time with one another.

Closing Thoughts

When you are considering divorce or working your way through the process consider receiving counseling with a trained and experienced provider, who can help you to work through the situation. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for relationship counseling. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Laurie can meet any couple where they are at to work on their relationship or assist them in the process of planning for divorce.

 

Psychotherapist for Alcohol Abuse

Battling the Bottle: When to Seek a Psychotherapist for Alcohol Abuse

If you struggle with alcohol abuse or alcoholism, you might find it rather difficult to stop drinking on your own. This is because the use of alcohol can be highly addictive once you have developed a dependence on it and it may ultimately be more powerful than simply your will to quit. Given the challenges of the battle, many people choose to seek out the support of a psychotherapist for alcohol abuse. Learn more about the challenges of battling alcohol abuse and how a therapist can help:

Effects of Alcohol Abuse

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Individuals who abuse alcohol may find themselves drinking frequently and throughout the day. On some level you know that it is not healthy to engage in this behavior, but it can be difficult to resist. You might find yourself constantly making excuses for your drinking or planning to cut back someday soon.

Soon you may find the alcohol abuse taking its toll on your personal and professional life. You might show up to work late or hungover. It may be difficult to hide from your boss and coworkers that you have been drinking. When you get home, if you start drinking fairly quickly, it can be difficult to engage with your family and manage typical home activities like cooking, cleaning, and laundry.

You may want to quit but quitting can be easier said than done. You may need support in quitting and that support could be obtained by seeking therapy. In the counseling setting, you may also be able to discuss and identify what factors could have led to your alcohol abuse to begin with.

Causes of Alcohol Abuse

When you think of the causes of alcohol abuse, you might think that the answer should be obvious. After all, surely drinking alcohol is the cause of alcohol abuse. However, the cause of alcohol abuse is not so obvious as it might seem. Oftentimes, alcohol abuse grew out of other problems.

Many people turn to using alcohol to help them cope. Sometimes people do this for short-term coping, such as before they go into a situation that might make them feel anxious. Other times, people start using alcohol because they have unresolved emotions from their childhood and adult life that they do not know how to resolve. The alcohol may serve to numb those emotions. While this may seem to work, of course, the alcohol abuse does have its own negative consequences, so it is not a real solution.

Support for Alcohol Abuse

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When you think about seeking support for alcohol abuse, what you really need is two solutions. First, you need someone who will be your ally and your coach in the battle against alcohol abuse. Second, you also need to work with someone who can help you resolve the underlying problems that motivated the alcohol abuse to begin with. A trained therapist can assist you with both of these areas.

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Counselors can help people to set goals for reducing or stopping their alcohol use. They can help you build and maintain the motivation for doing this. They can support you as you endeavor to reach those goals and can help you trouble-shoot if something goes wrong. As noted, they can also assist you in resolving any emotional problems that might have been motivating your excessive use.

Closing Thoughts

Alcohol abuse is a real problem and it is not easily resolved on your own. If you want to reduce your alcohol use and regain control over your life, consider seeking the support of a counselor. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for alcohol abuse counseling. Laurie can help you reduce your use and support you in the battle for sobriety.