Making the Divide: Why You Should See a Psychotherapist for Divorce
If your relationship is on the rocks, you may start considering divorce. There can be many conditions that might lead a couple in this direction. Even in difficult situations, it can still be a difficult choice. Many people will find they could benefit from the help of a psychotherapist as they finalize that decision. Once the decision is settled, then a counselor can also help a couple work through the process of divorce. Learn more about why you should see a psychotherapist for divorce:
Many situations can lead a person to consider divorce. There could have been infidelity or some other breach of trust. There could be excessive arguments or differences you can no longer work past. There could be alienation or abandonment. One or both partners may have simply changed over time, such that the relationship no longer works. When this becomes a possibility some couples do seek help.
When you find yourself considering divorce and you want to repair the relationship, this is a perfect time to seek the support of a couples counselor. Sometimes couples find they simply cannot mend their relationship on their own. However, the help of a trained professional can allow couples to strengthen their communication with one another and give them a safe space to work through their problems.
Deciding on Divorce
Sometimes even the help of therapy cannot repair a relationship. One or both parties may find themselves at an impasse where they really want to leave. Meeting with a counselor either for individual therapy or for couples therapy can help you make that decision. It may be more helpful to meet with a therapist one-on-one if just one party is in the position of considering divorce. Otherwise, the couple may work with a couples therapist to collectively work towards that decision together.
Planning for Divorce
Oftentimes, couples will have already made the decision for divorce before starting couples counseling or they make that decision during the process of relationship therapy. This is perfectly acceptable, the goal of attending relationship counseling is to help the couple get where they need to be, and that may not always be reparation. The good news is relationship counseling can also be used to plan for divorce.
You may wonder why you would want to see a psychotherapist for divorce planning. Well, the truth is that divorce can be a challenging process. This is true even if the partners are separating amicably. There can be many logistics to work through, such as dividing property and debt. The situation may become even more challenging if you share children—you certainly need to have an amicable relationship.
Attending counseling during the process of your divorce can be tremendously helpful for partners who need to learn how to co-parent separately. A divorce counselor can assist divorcing partners in learning how to communicate in ways that will be healthy for both them and their children. Counseling can also help to mediate the planning of logistics around co-parenting, such as sharing time with one another.
When you are considering divorce or working your way through the process consider receiving counseling with a trained and experienced provider, who can help you to work through the situation. Contact Licensed Clinical Social Worker Laurie Sloan at 212-413-7088 to schedule an appointment for relationship counseling. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Laurie can meet any couple where they are at to work on their relationship or assist them in the process of planning for divorce.